Blog post #2 - Resolving Interpersonal Conflict

Interpersonal conflict occurs when two or more individuals who must work together fail to share the same views, and have different interests or goals.  I am going by this definition I found on the webpage http://www.ehow.com/facts_5552016_types-interpersonal-conflict.html.

The conflict I am going to discuss occurred during my internship in the US recently. It is between me and my supervisor. The conflict is more about me disliking my supervisor for certain things that he did, but not doing much about it. I am quite sure he was not that happy with me too, although he went about his business like nothing was wrong. This is pretty much an unresolved conflict. 

When I first came to my internship company, I was quite surprised that what I was promised to do on the internship was very different from what I had to actually do when I got there. However, I was still interested in learning more about everything. Of course, I was not thrilled as I am unable to work on my interest.

The main reason for this conflict occurring is that my supervisor had an unrealistic expectation of my abilities. He told me to do things that only a professional would be expected to do. I said I would try, but not to expect too much of me. I felt that he was not very happy when I told him this. In the end, I managed to do some of the work that he told me to do. Sadly, he was not really impressed with my work. But, he was very impressed with my colleagues’ work (photoshop designs for a website). I was in charge for implementing the functionality of the website. Perhaps my work was not as showy as my colleagues’ work, but I was a little angry that my hard work was not appreciated. I have to tell myself that generally programmers are underappreciated and live with it.

Another reason for this conflict is that my supervisor comes to work late and leaves work early most of the time. When he leaves early, he will sometimes give reasons like he is attending the soccer practice of his son. He is frequently absent for work too, up to 3 days in a row. Perhaps this is an American work culture, or perhaps he is really working outside some of the times he is absent. But this made me less motivated to work for him and his project and I started to focus on my own work instead. He should have at least pretended that he was working outside by saying that he was going for meetings or such.

Since this was a 3 month internship, I did not really care about this “conflict” as I was leaving him anyway. But if I was really working in a company with him, I would tend to resign from that job. I would rather work in a job that would make me do my best for the company. But if I was unable to resign, what would be my possible solutions? How can I work effectively and happily if I have a supervisor like that in future?

Blog Post #1 - Effective Communications Skills

I think communicating effectively to another person is to get your message across to him COMPLETELY. That means that the listener understands one hundred percent of what you are talking about. I personally think that is impossible, but we can get close to it.

Usually, when you listen to a person talk for more than a few minutes, you tend to lose focus, and start to think about other things. For example, sometimes during lectures, I will start to think about what to do after lecture unintentionally, and as a result, missed part of what the lecturer is saying. I am assuming this is true for most, if not all my readers.

Thus, I want to know how to keep people’s attention to me as long as possible when I speak and at the same time understand most of what I am trying to say. I believe this is the end result of effective communication, and why I want to learn how to communicate effectively.

Following this rationale, whenever I go for a job interview, the interviewer will understand what I want from the company and what I can do for the company EXACTLY. Another example is that when I present my final year project, the examiner will understand completely what my project is about.

Basically, no matter the environment and the audience, I want people to be interested in and understand what I am saying. And hopefully, in the process, they will like me at the same time.

 I have to admit this is a little ambitious though.

My first post

Hello. This is my first post. I have never blogged before. Is it something like facebook?